Saul merely changed tactics because David walked in wisdom. Now, Saul went emotional. Emotional warfare is an aspect of psychological warfare. Someone describes it as ” … emotionally cruel behavior, such as trying to make someone feel jealous, inadequate, angry, etc”. Its the withdrawal of love and kindness to someone whom God values. It is a quiet and surreptitious way to hate another. Its intention is to erode your wellbeing. Imagine what Saul did to David with his daughter. David did not ask him for a wife. The depth of this kind of warfare can ” … take many forms and have serious consequences for both partners. It’s important to understand the dynamics of psychological warfare in relationships, identify the common tactics used, and learn how to recognize and respond”. Allo Health says, ” By setting healthy boundaries, you can take control of your own life and create a sense of safety and stability for yourself ”. The ordinary response from David should have been hatred as well. That would have opened the door for the enemy. God helped David when another of Saul’s daughter decided to fall for David instead. A great amount of warfare is psychological. Don’t fall for it. Ask God to help your heart.
And Saul said to David, Behold my elder daughter Merab, her will I give thee to wife: only be thou valiant for me, and fight the LORD’s battles. For Saul said, Let not mine hand be upon him, but let the hand of the Philistines be upon him….. But it came to pass at the time when Merab Saul’s daughter should have been given to David, that she was given unto Adriel the Meholathite to wife. 1 Samuel 18:17, 19 KJV